This is the question asked by every guy who has ever been dumped. In nearly 75% of all break ups, it is the woman who ends the relationship. There are some things you can do to help find the solution to the question, “my girlfriend dumped me – what can I do?”.
First, you need to consider the fact that maybe she did you a favor by dumping you. Some guys will stay with a woman just because it is convenient. It is easier to stay in a convenient relationship, one that you are used to, than it is to go out and look for one that is really good. If your relationship with her was merely one of convenience, then her dumping you could be the best thing that ever happened to you. But, if this is not the case, and you are sure that you want to be with her and only her, then there are things you can do.
The next step is to figure out whether or not she really loves you. Is she impulsive? Is she the type that does something on impulse and then regrets her actions later? If you think she still loves you, then you have a good chance of getting her back. But, you have to make her come to you. Do not continuously send her text messages or call her. This makes it seem as though you are stalking her, and it will only cause her to avoid you.
Instead, you have to appear as though you have accepted the break up. Move on. Date other women. By making her come back to you instead of the other way around, she will learn to appreciate you and the times the two of you shared together.
During this time, you should also be taking a long, hard look at yourself. And be honest with yourself. Are you still the same as you were when you first met her? The same man she fell in love with? It is easy, as time goes by, for a man to forget the things he used to do for a woman, when they first got together. Do you still open doors for her? Do you still buy her flowers for no reason? It is not intentional, but men start to slack off of these things after they have been with a woman for a while. Men do not really notice that they are doing this, but women notice. They notice more than you realize.
When you see your ex girlfriend, keep the conversation casual, but slowly bring into the conversation, some of the things you have in common. Do not be too obvious. You want her to be reminded of the good aspects of your relationship. Avoid talking about what led to the break up. If she liked a particular cologne you wore, wear it when you know you are going to see her. If you run into her at social gatherings, it is okay to strike up a polite conversation with her. But, do not spend the whole evening with her. Circulate. Talk to other friends. Even other women. She will start to see you in a different light. Always try to look your best. You want her to see that you are still taking care of yourself and you are not wallowing in self pity.
If you do these things, she will begin to realize that she lost a good thing. She will see you as other women see you. A good catch. And then you can stop wondering, “my girlfriend dumped me – what can I do?”.
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